11 RELATIONSHIP REMINDERS IN ISLAM!!

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BISMILLAH!!

I hope each and every one of you are in good health.  In Sha Allah!! Ameen! Today's blog topic is all about grasping and absorbing a few realities regarding relationships specifically concerning our relationship with our spouses. If you are married this blog post is for you, if you are single, this blog post is also for you since everyone has to get bonded to their potential partner sooner or later. In Sha Allah!! 

Acknowledging and adopting these things at our earliest convenience would I believe bring about a fruitful difference in our relationships. In Sha Allah!! 

Accordingly, let's commence!!

1. Acknowledge your partner's exertion:

I know ya'll will come at me saying, "We know that already!" But the idea I am trying to extend out to you is that despite limitations and scarcity, make sure you acknowledge your partner's efforts. Do not wane your confidence in your partner when you can see him or her hustling for your better tomorrow. A good partner would always strive hard to become better at their assigned role in a relationship.

2. Validate emotions (whether good or bad):

It is so crucial no matter how much I stress over this. We are always concurrent with our loved ones during the happy times, happy occasions but when it comes to adversities that is when only a handful of people would stick with you. Be a shoulder to lean on for your spouse during the bad times, when your partner is enraged, upset or sick that is when you need to hold your composure and listen to them.

 

No matter how much it bothers you, it would be a plus point for you to gain closure and affection to your potential partner. Many of us avoid clarification after arguments which potentially harms a relationship's insight and cognition. If you want your partner to give ear to your sayings during tough times, then be an ear to them during their tough moments even if it involves listening to them without a word.

Aisha (R.A) narrated,

"Allah's Messenger said, " I know whether you are angry or pleased." I said, "How do you know that Allah's Messenger?" He said, "When you are pleased, you say, "Yes, by the Lord of Muhammad,' but when you are angry, you say, 'No, by the Lord of Abraham!' " I said, "Yes, I do not leave, except your name."" [Sahih al-Bukhari]

3. Don't hesitate to assist them with their tasks!

If you are a male, do not hesitate to complete your tasks, accompany your spouse with little chunks of everyday errands. It's a very sweet gesture. Being a female, it's your responsibility to cater your husband's needs.

Al-Aswad narrated:

"I asked Aisha what did the Prophet used to do at home. She replied. "He used to keep himself busy serving his family and when it was time for the prayer, he would get up for prayer.""

4. Guard your modesty, you are not a showpiece for other men's approval.

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: 

It was said,

O Messenger of Allah, what type of wife is best? He said: “The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, and she obeys him if he instructs her to do something, and she does not do anything with regard to herself or his wealth in a manner of which he does not approve.”

It was said to ‘Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her): Which type of woman is best? She said: The one who does not know about saying bad things, and she is not crafty like men; her focus is on adorning herself for her husband and taking care of her family.

Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says:

“Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard” [an-Nisa 4:34].

5. Praise each other for the tiniest achievements!

Praise your wife or your husband for the nitty gritty goals they achieve for you and your family's bright future. Petite elements such as getting a new job, preparing dinner, upgrading your home, getting a gift and so much more. Be proud of them, associate your happiness with theirs. You need to know that they are burning the midnight oil for your bountiful future so little appreciation can go a long way to motivate them in keeping you and your children happy.

6. Buying each other presents!

Okay, so about this particular point. I need you to digest the fact that gifts never ever have to be costly. The value of a gift lies in the thoughtfulness and care put into it rather than its monetary value. Once in a while surprising your spouse with a gift can uplift the mood. Your thoughtful gestures stand above expensive gifts. 

7. Being religiously committed and bounded!

Note that your religion is your utmost priority. Stick to your prayers strongly, remain devout and seek assistance solely from Allah Almighty before anyone else.

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) quotes the Prophet as saying, “A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So, you should marry the religious woman; (otherwise) you will be a loser.” (Al-Bukhari)

8. Better yourself to have a better partner

Allah Almighty says:

“Bad women are for bad men and bad men are for bad women. And good women are for good men and good men are for good women.” (An-Nur 24:26)

It's so vital to know that your partner will be an image of your preference and liking therefore, better yourself each day. If you want your partner to be modest and to not eye other women online, then avoid showcasing yourself online. If you want him or her to be modest then take care of your modesty strictly. 

Another point of paramount importance is that before taking all of these points into consideration, make loads of Dua'a to be blessed with a religiously committed spouse. One who fears Allah Almighty would fear ever harming or hurting you in any way. Enhance yourself and you will attract a like-minded partner, someone who resonates with you. Put this to a test yourself!

9. Choose wisely!!

Ibn `Abidin, a famous Muslim jurist, said:

“The woman should choose a man who is religious, of good character, generous and of ample wealth. She should not marry an evildoer."

Recently, 

I saw a video that came across my phone. That video introduced a very profound idea in my mind. It suggested that before choosing a partner, imagine if your child to come is the exact replica of your partner having the same virtues, beliefs and behavior. Would you be content with your child then? If the answer is no, then do not choose such a person who doesn't share the same traits you admire or look for in your child.

10. Talk gently with your spouse!!

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to his wife Aisha,

“Show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it beautifies it and when it is taken out from anything it damages it.”

11. Stay fit! Learn and prepare good, nutritious food for your spouse to make them happy:

This is a very warm gesture towards your spouse. Preparing a nice meal for him would make a good husband happy and he will be appreciative towards even the small-scale efforts you put in to impressing him. As far as a male is concerned, it is a sweet thing to prepare a little something for your wife once in a while be it a cup of hot cocoa, a sandwich or greeting her with a nice breakfast.

I pray that we are matched with a compatible partner, In Sha Allah!! Ameen!! 

Allah Almighty has planned the best in store for us!! Have faith and pray boatloads.

This wraps up the blog post!!

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