Sculpting our way through

  Ya Ahlan Wa Sahlan!! (Hello and, Welcome!!) ^u^

It's been a while since I wrote on here and while I scribble today's topic here, I will also be posting a little extra bonus on my Instagram (extra brownie points for all of my sisters following my instagram page and if you aren't yet, it's ok brownie points for you too if you do it right now haha!)

Bismillah!

You all are already well acquainted with what "SCULPTING" is, a three-dimensional artwork or simply put, one of the plastic arts. Here, the idea that I will be trying to pass on forward by mentioning "sculpting" will be, "Trimming", "Healthy altering" and related. 

There are countless stumbling blocks we are welcomed with when we are trying to grow and build ourselves be it career, making ends meet OR relationships with people and above all, Allah SWT. There are times and camouflaged situations making us jump out of our skin, kind of pushing us into "going with them" or what most people like to say, "go with the flow". To regulate the cards, we play in a game, the way we cogitate the next opponents move which could be a sudden reverse card, trolling you back into an opposite order or a draw-four yeeting four cards at you, so you have a subsidiary level among the other players due to a reduced chance of winning. Have you ever noticed the way we critically muse over each and every move of ours in a game? Then, why not in this Dunya (world) where it will actually carry weight.

I am sure I am not the only one in this world of 7 billion+ who haven't had such situations where they'd ruminate constantly if so-and-so is a good partner/friend or not. Then, comes the times when we actually take a stand for ourselves because that gush of confidence rains into us and you'd contemplate the entire scenario of, "What our friend would think?" This thought would drive you mad over a course of sleepless nights and eventually, you'd care about that unhealthy influence/friend's feelings and not leave them. It is no less than a camouflaged situation or a simple Test.

Yes, SIMPLE. Because no matter, how misty the windows get, it isn't impossible to wipe them off. A battle of wills is what you will be drenched in if you don't make decisions for yourself. There's a pretty commonly used phrase, "Better safe than sorry." Everything might go smooth for you until you are pushed and forced to meet such labelled "friends" again, because things just keep escalating, today they might push you into skipping Salah, tomorrow they'd push you into giving cigarettes a try and pretty soon you'll get the hang of it. It's better to distance yourself with fits and starts, if needed. But don't become someone your heart never agreed to be.

Then comes, Agh! sweet emotions, when you see someone physically attractive and appealing. You are naturally drawn to them. Now, you start making a huge list with baby boxes to cross things out. 

1. Talk to him/her.

2. Secretly meet her.

3.  A date, it is!!

4. Let's meet again.

5. I can't live without you anymore.

6. A deep dark hole.

It isn't wrong to like somebody for the sake of Allah SWT and approaching their family to take things more official and aware but liking someone over wrong bases is unacceptable. For instance, choosing someone for the way they look or anything that could be regarded as transient is a bit towards the damaging side. Being drawn to them to such an unhealthy degree that you want closure, physical too now. What is all of this driving you into? 

A trench at the end of a seemingly smooth road. It is in your control to sculpt things your way, make your decisions, denying because it is not healthy for you and your Deen. Again, I'd keep mentioning that it is better to develop that remoteness by fits and starts than to keep deepening yourself into its quicksand.

These and so many other situations tend to draw you into taking not-so-healthy decisions. So many more can be counted such as stealing and importantly LYING. Because we end up being forced to lie in situations or that is what we like to call it. Nothing can force you into anything until you are willing to. You string your tongue along, and round your lips in when you speak, who has clenched your mouth with strings keeping you from speaking the truth? Who has tied your feet into running to places concerned with unhealthy activities? Your feet and muscular control are ingrained within your potential. You can control the way you like to sit, stroll, leap and so much more. 

It is with you the way you design your world. Brush your walls the way you want to, hang inspiration and pictures of whatever you like, scoot where it feels right and keep friends mindfully who help you get the Akhira, not the Dunya. Sculpt your way through, nobody can keep you from choosing the right over wrong. Fits and starts is the key and soon whenever it feels right at the drop of a hat, be stubborn with your wants. Is it the Dunya you want? or the Jannah. The chisels are yours to sculpt.

JazakAllah-u-khaira for sticking till the end!!

Assalam-O-Alaekum!! :)

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